As a pastor, I have the great honor of being part of some of the most significant events in the lives of people. One of these is when a couple is joined together in Christian marriage.
Premarital appointments with a couple are crucial as they create the opportunity to:
- Get to know each other
- Plan a service of Christian marriage that makes sense for them
- Offer coaching or help around areas of concern for the couple
- Share guidance from marrying and counseling couples
I am in my ninth year as an appointed pastor in the United Methodist Church and during that time I have officiated at thirty-seven services of Christian marriage and currently have four scheduled in the next twelve months. I have developed this template for four premarital appointments. While I will continue to develop it, I wanted to share my current version with you.
Feel free to use and adapt in whatever ways are helpful for you. I hope that this is helpful for you in ministry.
What have you found to be effective and helpful in meeting with a couple before they are married?
On June 3, 2006, Nicole Scherle and I were married. It has been a great journey.
This is one of our engagement photos at the bench where we were engaged by the Tidal Basin in Washington, DC.
Our friend, Kim Jackson, did a great job taking the photos.
I am in my third year serving as a pastor and have developed some resources that I have found to be useful in ministry and may be useful for you. You can find them on the Resources page. I have increasingly been using Google Documents as a tool for ministry. It keeps all my things in one searchable place that can be accessed in the same way in any location with internet access. This has been quite helpful during this season when I find myself at church, hospital (CPE) or home.
Feel free to check out and use the resources and make sure to send me an email if you find them useful. Enjoy!
After a week full of clergy transitions here at Thoughts of Resurrection, I thought I would share a slice from a personal transition that happened in 2006. This is a video that was produced for the wedding reception when Nicole and I were married on June 3, 2006. Have a great Friday and enjoy the video!
I have been married to my wife, Nicole, for two years today. It has been an exciting adventure and I am looking forward to many more years together.