A United Methodist Pastor’s Template for Premarital Appointments

As a pastor, I have the great honor of being part of some of the most significant events in the lives of people. One of these is when a couple is joined together in Christian marriage.

Premarital appointments with a couple are crucial as they create the opportunity to:

  • Get to know each other
  • Plan a service of Christian marriage that makes sense for them
  • Offer coaching or help around areas of concern for the couple
  • Share guidance from marrying and counseling couples

I am in my ninth year as an appointed pastor in the United Methodist Church and during that time I have officiated at  thirty-seven services of Christian marriage and currently have four scheduled in the next twelve months.  I have developed this template for four premarital appointments. While I will continue to develop it, I wanted to share my current version with you.

Feel free to use and adapt in whatever ways are helpful for you. I hope that this is helpful for you in ministry.

What have you found to be effective and helpful in meeting with a couple before they are married?

Resources at Thoughts of Resurrection

I am in my third year serving as a pastor and have developed some resources that I have found to be useful in ministry and may be useful for you. You can find them on the Resources page. I have increasingly been using Google Documents as a tool for ministry. It keeps all my things in one searchable place that can be accessed in the same way in any location with internet access. This has been quite helpful during this season when I find myself at church, hospital (CPE) or home.

Feel free to check out and use the resources and make sure to send me an email if you find them useful. Enjoy!