A United Methodist Pastor’s Template for Premarital Appointments

As a pastor, I have the great honor of being part of some of the most significant events in the lives of people. One of these is when a couple is joined together in Christian marriage.

Premarital appointments with a couple are crucial as they create the opportunity to:

  • Get to know each other
  • Plan a service of Christian marriage that makes sense for them
  • Offer coaching or help around areas of concern for the couple
  • Share guidance from marrying and counseling couples

I am in my ninth year as an appointed pastor in the United Methodist Church and during that time I have officiated at  thirty-seven services of Christian marriage and currently have four scheduled in the next twelve months.  I have developed this template for four premarital appointments. While I will continue to develop it, I wanted to share my current version with you.

Feel free to use and adapt in whatever ways are helpful for you. I hope that this is helpful for you in ministry.

What have you found to be effective and helpful in meeting with a couple before they are married?

LifeChurch.tv Internet Campus – Care (5 of 8)

As I am currently serving as a Congregational Care pastor at Resurrection, I was particularly interested to hear how LifeChurch.tv does care on their Internet Campus.

There is a team of volunteers that serves to pray with people live before, during and after the worship experience. This seems to be a key area in which care is provided for the people of the internet campus. Life groups (small groups) are encouraged to be able to respond to life events. The life groups that meet physically may be able to provide this support more tangibly than those that meet online.

Brandon Donaldson, Internet Campus Pastor, does have counseling sessions with members of the internet campus – primarily via phone, although Skype has also been used for this purpose.