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P.S. I Love You and Marriage Counseling

Last Friday, Nicole and I went to see P.S. I Love You at the theater. Fridays are our day off and it was Nicole’s turn to pick the movie. Who did we see there, but Jason Gant and Jason Watson. They were off to see Alien v. Predator – Requiem – quite a different genre of movie than we headed to see. Jason Gant challenged me to blog about the movie so here goes 🙂

One of the topics that I address with couples at whose wedding I will be officiating is how a conversation can escalate into a serious conflict. In the first scene of the movie Holly and Gerry (the main characters) are in a classic example of this type of escalating conflict in which each person pushes the emotional buttons of the other and things just gets worse. I am thinking about getting the DVD and playing it as an example of this with couples in the future.

The movie was also a story of a woman moving through grief. There are definitely healthier ways to move through grief than is portrayed in the movie. Nevertheless, it does provide a picture of the depth and strength of emotions at the loss of a spouse.

I give this movie 3 out of 5 stars. If you are thinking about watching it you can probably wait until it comes out on DVD.

What movies have you seen recently that have implications for the life of faith or ministry?

By Andrew Conard

Christian, husband, son, brother, homeowner

6 replies on “P.S. I Love You and Marriage Counseling”

My wife and I recently watched ‘Dreamgirls’ that we got through our Blockbuster-through-the-mail subscription. There was one series of scenes in there where one of the girls is going all ‘diva’ on the group and when the manager wants to replace her as lead singer for the ‘good of the group’, she demonstrates she really can’t be a team player, and ends up being dismissed from the group by everyone. There are some other circumstances surrounding it, but I made the comment to my wife during the whole series of scenes, “Isn’t this just like church?”

There are certainly times as leaders in ministry where we have to make tough calls in order to lift up someone else and their gifts, especially when they simply need encouragement to take the lead, or in order to help humble a person who might be getting out of hand. In fact I’m going through this right now with staff issues, so it particularly hit home in the movie.

Overall as a movie though, we were pretty disappointed after all the hype we remember hearing about it.

AvsP:R was pretty disappointing. If you’ve seen any of the Alien or any of the Predator movies, you’ve seen this one.

The problem with this series is that the aliens inherently have no capability of character development- they are pretty one-dimensional. The same is pretty much true of the Predators- same weapons, same strategies, same moves. Same boring. 🙂

Of course, it’s probably better than a chic flick…;-)

Dan – Thanks for your response. I have not yet seen Dreamgirls, but it sounds like it does have some applications for life in ministry right now. Staff problems – that can be trouble. I pray for courage and strength.

deviantmonk – Better than a chic flick? Likely. Plus P.S. I Love You was not a high quality chick flick as far as they go.

Christmas weekend, we went and saw Great Debaters – I really liked the movie (for adults) it was overall a great picture with a fantastic message. Originally I had intended on taking my inner-city kids that a volunteer with (ages 13-17) to see this movie; but after viewing it myself felt this was not a good movie for the kids. I was surprised that Adam was saying that every parents should take their teens to see this movie. I’ve since talked to a couple of different people that have taken groups thinking the same — that this is an ideal movie to motivate kids, etc., and have found that at least with the African-American kids they really found it way too disturbing and couldn’t really get past these parts to get the deeper message of the movie. If the producers/writers were thinking that this would hit-home with black teens, I would have to say they missed — unless, their target was 18 and above. Saturday instead we went to Alvin & Chipmunks and had a great time! I’m curious if anyone has taken a group of Caucasian white younger teens to see this movie and what their responses were?

I went to see “The Great Debaters”. I think the movie was for the benefit of us white people that continue to choose to believe that we have done nothing wrong and not mistreated anyone of a minority race socially or economically! I wanted to stand up and shout yea! as the students continued to win debates however, the theater was much too quite for all the whites in there to have felt the empathy for the kids as they went on to win their final prize! This movie would be a great opportunity for groups to work through and begin to have some understanding of how the white community will have to have change in behaviors and attitudes if we expect any thing to ever change for those of minority. They have very little voice. Two great books to read to help bring continuing understanding of racial discrimination and how it is caused by us as the white majority here in USA. 1.) “Blood done signed my name.” and “Same kind of different as me” both of these books are written by authors that have lived and witnessed the pain! The authors of “Same kind of different as me” will be @ Church of Resurrection Methodist Church on Saturday -19th speaking from 2 4 pm come listen and learn.

Diane – Thanks for sharing about the Great Debaters. I have been looking forward to seeing it myself. I think that you have an interesting critique here on the potential target audience. I do not have any response as I have not yet seen the movie yet, nor heard responses from teens.

Jennie – Thanks for the recommendation of books. I think that it will be a good event this Saturday with the authors.

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