Comments on: Married to a Muslim

By: Andrew Conard

Andrew Conard — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 05:39:29 +0000

Dan – Thanks for your addition and response. I think that you make a great addition with willingness for reciprocity in visiting.

Brenda – Thanks for sharing more of your story. It does sound as if Bassam has a fascinating story and family situation. I cannot imagine what it must be like for him to be here and for his family to be living in Baghdad. Thanks for your willingness to be a part of Jennifer and Bassam’s life. I am proud to be your pastor.

By: Brenda

Brenda — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 02:19:15 +0000

Andrew and Dan, I thank you both for you responses. I have attended Eid celebrations several times with Bassam and Jennifer. My husband and I were treated with such kindness by all the members. They never tried to “convert” us to their religion and they respected our differences. Of course, I should point out that Bassam is from a well educated family in Baghdad. At least they were prior to the war. Bassam is the only family member not in harms way. His family spent most of their savings to get him to the US for his education when he was 18 years old. His family is very much against religion promoting violence. Jennifer took thier child who was 18 months old to Baghdad in 1992 to visit his grandparents in Iraq. She was treated very well by all people including the government. They kept a close eye on her though. They flew a plan over the house everyday and after a few weeks they waved the wings to say hello. I have a soft spot in my heart for his family and their suffering. My greatest wish is that Bassam and his family might come to accept Jesus as their Savior. We hope by living our Faith our light will shine and the Ziada family will visit COR and decide to stay!

Thanks for listening.

Peace to you All.

Brenda

By: Dan

Dan — Fri, 18 Jan 2008 16:57:37 +0000

Great response Andrew! The only other thing I would add is to be yourself in your Christian identity around them. It’s an old cliche perhaps, but I love it: Your life might be the only Bible that someone else will read. How might this play out practically? If they’re over for dinner, don’t be afraid to say grace, even in Christ’s name. If they’re with you for Christmas, don’t be bashful about encouraging them to attend church with you (or any other time you might go, for that matter). I think in this way you are faithful to your own faith, yet not ‘pushy’ or condemning of theirs. Yet at the same time perhaps doing some of these types of things might open up opportunities for the spouse to ask questions and for the two of you to dialogue.

A question that just popped in my head: If Brenda were to ask the spouse to go with her to church, should she be willing to go with them to a Mosque or other Muslim event? I say yes, but I think it depends on a person’s comfort level. In that I mean that I am secure enough in my faith in Christ that I feel like I could attend a Mosque or other event, especially to show support to a loved one, without feeling like I am betraying my Christian faith, and without a need to criticize what I might encounter there. I know there are plenty of folks who would disagree, however. I think it’s a call every person would need to make for themselves.